Alcoholism is a terrible pain for the family. People who drink are the number one cause of domestic violence, financial hardship and the formation of wrong stereotypes in young children. By constantly watching relatives drink in the family, children can repeat their fate.
How to convince an alcoholic to stop drinking?
The big problem is that drunks don't recognize the existence of alcoholism until the end. For them, alcohol becomes the only joy in life. The feeling of problems, difficulties of life is numb.
It becomes almost impossible to persuade a person to stop drinking. But the pleasant leisure phase with a glass quickly ends, diseases appear, irreversible changes occur in the cerebral cortex.
growing social problems
- more frequent conflicts in the family;
- there is a change of environment - proven friends move away and alcoholics take their places;
- in a state of intoxication, a person easily breaks the law;
- lost interest in life, &c.
How to get a loved one to stop drinking alcohol?
In order not to completely lose a loved one, relatives and friends have the last chance - to force a person to give up alcohol. In that case, one should not ignore any method and neglect the means of returning a stumbling person to society. How to persuade to stop drinking? Should he be persuaded? Where to start? Maybe you need to force the treatment?
Undoubtedly, it is necessary to try to persuade, to make them aware that the problem exists, to help them to perceive and understand: the situation must be dealt with in some way. To reach his mind, to conjure up memories of how good it felt when alcohol didn't overwhelm him.
Once you realize the problem, you need to force the alcoholic to give up alcohol. This is an extremely difficult task, requiring incredible efforts from you and the patient. Awareness of the problem does not always lead you to stop drinking. A person does not admit to the end that he cannot give up, he assures others that at the moment he simply does not want to give up. But as soon as he wants to, the vodka will be effortlessly forgotten. He sincerely believes that today he lacks real motivation, especially since tomorrow "Vasya's neighbor has a birthday", so Fisherman's Day, but after the New Year, starting at 8 am, he will definitely give up. This can go on indefinitely. At the same time, if you try to insist, you can cause yourself a strong aggression.
What can make a drinker stop drinking?
There are some general rules for starting to persuade an alcoholic:
- talk about the problem only when you are sober;
- you are an important person to the patient;
- prepare concrete evidence that he actually became an alcoholic;
- justify your desire to help him recover from drunkenness;
- prove that there are reliable methods of treatment, cite as an example mutual friends who have gotten rid of addiction;
- I promise to support you morally until the end.
It is often our own fault that drinking becomes a disaster. We ourselves tried to ignore the problem until the end. We are missing the moment when addiction started to dominate. Remember, when your loved one started to lose their sense of proportion more often when drinking alcohol, the next day we heard:
- "I always rest like this";
- "I have no problems, everything is in order";
- "I have everything under control";
- "was meant to be" and so on.
Whatever the justifications, "this is the last time" promises, know that you already have a serious problem! That means your husband, son, boyfriend has become addicted to alcohol, now it's hard to convince a man to stop drinking. But leaving it as is won't work, it will start to degrade before your eyes:
- he will not stop drinking, but, on the contrary, will do so more and more often;
- will become more aggressive over time;
- will lose control more often;
- gradually destroy your emotional and mental state.
Even in a sober state, the patient has the consequences of alcohol dependence: irritation, depression, isolation, tension. There is no need to indulge in illusions - "maybe it will get better on its own", "everything will change with time".
How can I get my husband to stop drinking?
It's time to act, but what will make a husband stop drinking? For this, all methods are good, we should try everything possible. Before applying various methods to combat alcohol addiction, it is necessary to:
- get or increase motivation - it must be strong. A person experiences an addiction that only strong motivation can overcome;
- to boost self-esteem - to remind him of what you liked, how much he was valued at work before he started drinking.
An interesting fact: if a man is loved, appreciated, surrounded by care, it is almost impossible to find an alcoholic in such families. A man takes his first steps towards a bottle out of dissatisfaction with his life and family relationships. It's hard to help a lost person find himself, but it's even harder for him to make amends. If a wife wants to save her husband, you need to stop throwing tantrums and crying, try to find him calmly, kindly.
Ask yourself questions and answer them honestly:
- How can I move so my husband stops drinking?
- What am I ready for him to stop drinking?
Difficult? Hard? But there is not other way. Stop accusing him of all sins, smother him with duties, arrest, limit. For a period of time, remove from your consciousness the conviction that:
- he must do;
- he must be responsible;
- he's a man;
- he is obliged to "drag the family";
- he must, must, must. . .
There is already a sick person in front of him, you will help him to recover, and only then will you remind him of his duty. In the meantime, stop blaming constantly, don't focus on this problem, take care of yourself. And, perhaps, after that, his words about the harmfulness of alcohol find an answer in his soul.
Understanding, patience, care - this is what should surround a person, and the result of his efforts will be a strong family and a person who has stopped drinking. Connect relatives and friends. It is possible that your father or mother will be able to convince an alcoholic to be treated. Friends who are comfortable with alcohol can also help. The word of a friend often becomes a weighty argument for making an important decision.
How can I convince my child to stop drinking?
Stop drinking, be an alcoholic, the patient needs support. Isolating yourself from drinking friends, this is important for a successful fight against the green snake. Support him always, even if he fails, and he breaks. Let him try again to overcome the bad habit.
Don't keep alcoholic beverages at home, give up alcohol yourself. The explanation "I drink, but I know when to stop" is not adequate. You can stop drinking if you set a positive example yourself.
Measures to gradually limit the amount of alcohol in life do not work, there is no such thing as "cultural drinking". Complete and definitive refusal of alcohol is the main condition for sobriety.
What to do with alcoholics who are struggling with the "green snake"? Support them in their efforts and attempts to break the habit. For example, when the father convinced him to stop drinking and the son tries to refuse a glass, vividly show positive emotions, approval. If the child has stumbled again, show sadness, discontent. You must help the drunk to deal with his addiction.
Can a person stop drinking on their own?
We want to warn you: self-treatment of alcoholics is rarely effective. Sometimes, with the help of character and will, this is possible if alcohol addiction has not reached the physical stage. The basis for quitting addiction is the desire to save the family, get a job, status in society, another goal, the achievement of which will be a reward for the efforts made. As an aid to yourself, you should start practicing proper nutrition, running, weekly bathing procedures.
To combat alcoholism, folk and medical methods of treatment are widely used. Both options have pros and cons. They are often practiced when it is not possible to convince a drinking boyfriend, husband or son of the harmfulness of the habit.
There are pharmacological and folkloric preparations that cause extreme aversion to alcohol. They are harmless, they do not cause dependence or rejection of the body. They contain substances that are completely incompatible with alcohol. They are added to the drink or food for the person who drinks it.
After drinking drinks containing alcohol, they cause an unpleasant reaction from the body: vomiting, nausea, dizziness, etc. Of the most common folk remedies use:
- thyme decoction;
- lamb decoction;
- Decoction of St. John's wort.
An interesting method of hidden persuasion to stop drinking existed in ancient times - dung fungus. The fungus contains a substance that prevents the conversion of ethyl alcohol to acetaldehyde. If you eat a mushroom and drink alcohol, then a person will have symptoms of severe poisoning. Our grandmothers imperceptibly weaned their husbands from alcohol in this way. But in modern realities it is better not to use this method, especially since medicine has taken a step forward.
Why is expert help needed?
If an alcoholic cannot stop drinking, not only hidden folk methods, but also medications can be used. These are pharmacological formulations in the form of drops and tinctures. They're cheap. Drugs can be applied covertly, but success is not always possible.
If the disease has taken root for a long time and firmly, then the use of drops is not enough. Treatment of alcoholism in a hospital is necessary with the involvement of doctors - a narcologist and a psychologist. In especially severe cases of alcoholism, it is no longer possible to do without the help of qualified doctors.
There are 3 stages of chronic alcoholism. If the first two still give hope of getting rid of the disease on their own, in the third stage, alcoholics themselves do not stop drinking without the help of doctors.
There comes a time when problems grow every day, it is necessary to make a decision about compulsory treatment. Such action is regulated by Law No. 323-FZ. Determination in a narcological dispensary is carried out according to the conclusion of a psychiatrist.
It is better not to get into such a state and help alcoholics until this time. Take care of your loved one in advance and find your own method to convince the drinker to stop drinking. The specialized clinic, in turn, will do everything possible to return a healthy person to society. True professionals treat alcoholism at any stage and are ready to accompany you from the first consultation to full recovery.